The first thing you should do before jumping into polyamory

I work with a lot of folks in polyamorous relationships in my sex therapy practice and in my relationship therapy practice. Before all the on-going communication between partners that is recommended by every polyamory text I have ever read, there is one thing you that doesn't get talked about often enough and that is what…

What causes a low sex drive?

With COVID-19, my sex therapy practice is busy: Sex has undoubtedly taken a hit for most relationships. And if sex was stressful before COVID-19, it likely is only getting more stressful and not less. With the pandemic being more of a long-term problem rather than a short-term crisis, you may be wondering how to get…

being cool is ruining your sex life

In my sex therapy practice I often wonder when I am specifically working with folks in couples therapy or relationship counselling: what stops folks from experimenting more? Getting sillier? Taking a chance on a weird request? And I started to wonder... Whether or not being cool is ruining your sex life definitely depends on your…

Coping with Uncertainty & Isolation: COVID-19 resources

This may be a sex counselling, relationship therapy, centric place, but addressing our basic mental health and survival needs is some of the best things we can do for our sexual and reproductive health so I wanted to devote this post entirely to the value of connecting with difficult feelings, connecting with ourselves, and connecting…

Relationships During COVID-19 & Social Distancing

https://videopress.com/v/k8nNbvBP?preloadContent=metadata COVID-19 social distancing can be really tough on relationships of all kinds, roommates, partners, friends, you name it! Here are some tips for how to navigate relationships while in isolation: Expect there to be some tension. Not because I want this for you! But because you're human and you might not have spent this…

3 ways to practice talking about sex

I have met so many people in my sex counselling practice who feel tentative talking about sex openly and explicitly with their partners. Often times there are fears of being judged, feeling weird about asking for wants and needs, concerns that talking about sex will make partners feel inadequate or "bad at sex." This can…

Rekindle the Relationship: PWYC Relationship Therapy Postpartum

Postpartum Support Toronto (PPST) is offering PWYC relationship therapy by yours truly! Rekindle the love and connection that brought you into parenthood. This brief psychotherapy program offers 8 weeks of PWYC relationship therapy that includes: session 1 -3 | assessment session 4 | relationship feedback session 5 | practice conflict communication session 6 | explore…

VOICES: Maron’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story

CS: birth trauma (details), gender identity feels, body image, mental health, sexuality, kink/BDSM, sex work Maron identifies as a white, able-bodied, middle-class, employed, occasionally depressed, parent, poly, queer, genderqueer: agender, they/them pronouns, and is married to a cis-dude in a triad and lives in a poly household. Maron and their husband are the bio-parents of…

tell me what you want [book review & giveaway!]

CS: normalizing taboo sexual fantasies, poorly attempted trans allyship, fatphobic fantasies, racism, sex research Have you ever wondered if your sexual fantasies are normal? Or common? Or have you ever wondered about the kinds of things other people are fantasizing about? Justin Lehmiller has conducted the largest study to date in America (over 4000 participants!)…