When I began my journey as a sex therapist I was approaching it like a sex educator. For most of my life, I wanted to be in sex education, but I could never quite find my place in it. I tried working with youth, exploring sexual health through holistic medicines, I even tried filling the…
sex therapy & sex counselling
A simple and profound medicine for your sex life
Typically, I would not subscribe to any magical potion for sex therapy, concrete or abstract, that claims to cure what ails you in sex. BUT, this particular medicine is a doozy! I use it in my sex therapy practice all the time. Are you ready? Here it is...
Meditation, Ego, and Sex Therapy
Every year, I take a break during August from my sex therapy practice to reorient my sex counselling philosophy and skills. Ironically, it is when I am taking a break from sex therapy I find myself hungry for new ideas, resources, and information that might support my sex counselling skills. This past August my holiday…
3 tools for better sex
Each of these tools are techniques and approaches I incorporate into my sex therapy practice. Each have their primary focus, underlying philosophy, and limitations. None of these tools have immediate results or offers "the move" to have amazing sex every time. Rather, they are fundamental sex therapy skills that will support you in having deeply…
3 ingredients for success in sex therapy
Throughout my training to expand my skills in sex counselling, sex therapy, and as a relationship therapist there were courses on all sorts of approaches to psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioural, existential, Gestalt, Rogerian, psychodynamic… it's a lot to keep in mind as a therapist studying the material let alone as someone looking for tools and approaches to…
Birth Trauma & Birth Alchemy Group
CS: The following article discusses the topic of birth trauma and is a guest post written by Christiane Lafleche. Italicized writing is an introduction to the topic by Tynan Rhea. There is no question that trauma of all kinds can impact our ability to be enjoy pleasurable activities, such as sex. Birth trauma in particular…
3 things to do instead of psychotherapy trainings
Though there was a dip in client loads at the beginning of the pandemic, mental health support is again in high demand (for some, more now than before the pandemic and for understandable reasons). In my own practice I have seen a demand for sex counselling and couples therapy and relationship therapy increase as relationships…
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The first thing you should do before jumping into polyamory
I work with a lot of folks in polyamorous relationships in my sex therapy practice and in my relationship therapy practice. Before all the on-going communication between partners that is recommended by every polyamory text I have ever read, there is one thing you that doesn't get talked about often enough and that is what…
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What causes a low sex drive?
With COVID-19, my sex therapy practice is busy: Sex has undoubtedly taken a hit for most relationships. And if sex was stressful before COVID-19, it likely is only getting more stressful and not less. With the pandemic being more of a long-term problem rather than a short-term crisis, you may be wondering how to get…
Using scripts in sex therapy for unsolvable problems
One technique I like to use in my sex counselling or in my relationship therapy is scripts. I have everyone collaborate on a script they can turn to when they know they are about to go down a dead-end road.