being cool is ruining your sex life

In my sex therapy practice I often wonder when I am specifically working with folks in couples therapy or relationship counselling: what stops folks from experimenting more? Getting sillier? Taking a chance on a weird request? And I started to wonder... Whether or not being cool is ruining your sex life definitely depends on your…

What is depression?

I have an understanding of depression. As a sex therapist you may be surprised to learn that the topic of depression comes up quite a bit in sex counselling. Struggling with sexual desire, sexual arousal, or connecting with partners can all be made particularly difficult when depression is present. Sexual energy is firey! It's energized!…

Relationships During COVID-19 & Social Distancing

https://videopress.com/v/k8nNbvBP?preloadContent=metadata COVID-19 social distancing can be really tough on relationships of all kinds, roommates, partners, friends, you name it! Here are some tips for how to navigate relationships while in isolation: Expect there to be some tension. Not because I want this for you! But because you're human and you might not have spent this…

3 ways to practice talking about sex

I have met so many people in my sex counselling practice who feel tentative talking about sex openly and explicitly with their partners. Often times there are fears of being judged, feeling weird about asking for wants and needs, concerns that talking about sex will make partners feel inadequate or "bad at sex." This can…

Rekindle the Relationship: PWYC Relationship Therapy Postpartum

Postpartum Support Toronto (PPST) is offering PWYC relationship therapy by yours truly! Rekindle the love and connection that brought you into parenthood. This brief psychotherapy program offers 8 weeks of PWYC relationship therapy that includes: session 1 -3 | assessment session 4 | relationship feedback session 5 | practice conflict communication session 6 | explore…

Sex Therapy and 5 ways to change your life

Great things can happen in sex therapy! Maybe you’re having trouble maintaining or getting aroused. Maybe you’re exploring a new queer identity or gender identity. One of the most common types of clients I work with is someone who has experienced a sexual trauma, has done a tonne of trauma processing, but never got support…

tell me what you want [book review & giveaway!]

CS: normalizing taboo sexual fantasies, poorly attempted trans allyship, fatphobic fantasies, racism, sex research Have you ever wondered if your sexual fantasies are normal? Or common? Or have you ever wondered about the kinds of things other people are fantasizing about? Justin Lehmiller has conducted the largest study to date in America (over 4000 participants!)…

Holiday Book Giveaway! Unscrewed by Jaclyn Friedman

Are you looking for a great book for that special feminist someone this year? I have the book for you– Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All by Jaclyn Friedman. Even better news, TynanRhea.com is hosting a book giveaway for the holidays! Just comment on this blog why…

5 ways to get hot when sex is not

As someone who has had their fair share of chronic pain since childhood, I know how difficult it can be to have a high sex drive (or rather, not a lot of breaks and a whole lot of accelerators, thank you Emily Nagoski) and a body that can’t keep up. Whether your struggling with mental…