Every year, I take a break during August from my sex therapy practice to reorient my sex counselling philosophy and skills. Ironically, it is when I am taking a break from sex therapy I find myself hungry for new ideas, resources, and information that might support my sex counselling skills. This past August my holiday…
Tag: sexual & reproductive health
3 tools for better sex
Each of these tools are techniques and approaches I incorporate into my sex therapy practice. Each have their primary focus, underlying philosophy, and limitations. None of these tools have immediate results or offers "the move" to have amazing sex every time. Rather, they are fundamental sex therapy skills that will support you in having deeply…
3 ingredients for success in sex therapy
Throughout my training to expand my skills in sex counselling, sex therapy, and as a relationship therapist there were courses on all sorts of approaches to psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioural, existential, Gestalt, Rogerian, psychodynamic… it's a lot to keep in mind as a therapist studying the material let alone as someone looking for tools and approaches to…
What causes a low sex drive?
With COVID-19, my sex therapy practice is busy: Sex has undoubtedly taken a hit for most relationships. And if sex was stressful before COVID-19, it likely is only getting more stressful and not less. With the pandemic being more of a long-term problem rather than a short-term crisis, you may be wondering how to get…
Using scripts in sex therapy for unsolvable problems
One technique I like to use in my sex counselling or in my relationship therapy is scripts. I have everyone collaborate on a script they can turn to when they know they are about to go down a dead-end road.
3 ways to practice talking about sex
I have met so many people in my sex counselling practice who feel tentative talking about sex openly and explicitly with their partners. Often times there are fears of being judged, feeling weird about asking for wants and needs, concerns that talking about sex will make partners feel inadequate or "bad at sex." This can…
Sex Explained: A review by a relationship therapist
Sex Explained, a Netflix documentary, is one of the best sex documentaries I have seen in a long time. It does an excellent job of blending social justice issues, history, and updated research all in one place. I would even consider using it in my sex counselling practice or in couples therapy— it's that good.
Sex Therapy and 5 ways to change your life
Great things can happen in sex therapy! Maybe you’re having trouble maintaining or getting aroused. Maybe you’re exploring a new queer identity or gender identity. One of the most common types of clients I work with is someone who has experienced a sexual trauma, has done a tonne of trauma processing, but never got support…
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What is normal?
A common question that I think all sexual health workers hear at some point is: "am I normal?" I don’t love the word normal because I think for many folks it looks something like this: Normal = common = good/right [and this is problematic for many reasons]. But lots of things are common and not…
VOICES: Maron’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
CS: birth trauma (details), gender identity feels, body image, mental health, sexuality, kink/BDSM, sex work Maron identifies as a white, able-bodied, middle-class, employed, occasionally depressed, parent, poly, queer, genderqueer: agender, they/them pronouns, and is married to a cis-dude in a triad and lives in a poly household. Maron and their husband are the bio-parents of…
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