CS: The following article discusses the topic of birth trauma and is a guest post written by Christiane Lafleche. Italicized writing is an introduction to the topic by Tynan Rhea. There is no question that trauma of all kinds can impact our ability to be enjoy pleasurable activities, such as sex. Birth trauma in particular…
sex in pregnancy and parenthood
What causes a low sex drive?
With COVID-19, my sex therapy practice is busy: Sex has undoubtedly taken a hit for most relationships. And if sex was stressful before COVID-19, it likely is only getting more stressful and not less. With the pandemic being more of a long-term problem rather than a short-term crisis, you may be wondering how to get…
Using scripts in sex therapy for unsolvable problems
One technique I like to use in my sex counselling or in my relationship therapy is scripts. I have everyone collaborate on a script they can turn to when they know they are about to go down a dead-end road.
Rekindle the Relationship: PWYC Relationship Therapy Postpartum
Postpartum Support Toronto (PPST) is offering PWYC relationship therapy by yours truly! Rekindle the love and connection that brought you into parenthood. This brief psychotherapy program offers 8 weeks of PWYC relationship therapy that includes: session 1 -3 | assessment session 4 | relationship feedback session 5 | practice conflict communication session 6 | explore…
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Sex Therapy and 5 ways to change your life
Great things can happen in sex therapy! Maybe you’re having trouble maintaining or getting aroused. Maybe you’re exploring a new queer identity or gender identity. One of the most common types of clients I work with is someone who has experienced a sexual trauma, has done a tonne of trauma processing, but never got support…
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What is normal?
A common question that I think all sexual health workers hear at some point is: "am I normal?" I don’t love the word normal because I think for many folks it looks something like this: Normal = common = good/right [and this is problematic for many reasons]. But lots of things are common and not…
VOICES: Maron’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
CS: birth trauma (details), gender identity feels, body image, mental health, sexuality, kink/BDSM, sex work Maron identifies as a white, able-bodied, middle-class, employed, occasionally depressed, parent, poly, queer, genderqueer: agender, they/them pronouns, and is married to a cis-dude in a triad and lives in a poly household. Maron and their husband are the bio-parents of…
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INTERNET GEMS: 4 great sex & birth articles
CS: note that all the below articles refer to cis-women's experiences with birth and pregnancy, and are often discussed from a heteronormative perspective. Aside from all the amazing articles I’ve had the opportunity to take part in (which you can peruse here and the articles I’ve loved writing these are some of the best reads…
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VOICES SERIES: Ayana’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
Ayana (not her real name) identifies as a woman, mother, black woman, latina woman, a multicultural woman, and as a Georgia Peach (having been born and raised in Georgia). She identifies as mainly straight but also as bi[sexual]. However, she finds being married to a cishet-man, others perceive her as straight. And last, but not…
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VOICES SERIES: RN’s Sex in Pregnancy and Postpartum Story
RN is a 48 year old, white, Canadian, cis-female, femme, with 2 children and one divorce under her belt. RN is also a successful sex worker. RN began sex work when her children were 8 and 15 years old. For the most part, RN started sex work as a means of supplementing her income after…
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