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Ayana (not her real name) identifies as a woman, mother, black woman, latina woman, a multicultural woman, and as a Georgia Peach (having been born and raised in Georgia). She identifies as mainly straight but also as bi[sexual]. However, she finds being married to a cishet-man, others perceive her as straight. And last, but not…
Continue reading ➞ VOICES SERIES: Ayana’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
RN is a 48 year old, white, Canadian, cis-female, femme, with 2 children and one divorce under her belt. RN is also a successful sex worker. RN began sex work when her children were 8 and 15 years old. For the most part, RN started sex work as a means of supplementing her income after…
Continue reading ➞ VOICES SERIES: RN’s Sex in Pregnancy and Postpartum Story
ND is a cisgender, queer, Indian, Sikh woman from Vancouver, BC. Her family originates from Punjab, North India. ND moved to Toronto from Vancouver to become a midwife and has since started a family with her partner within the context of their open relationship. Her little girl is currently 11 months, full of delicious rolls…
Continue reading ➞ VOICES SERIES: ND’s Sex in Pregnancy and Postpartum Story
As someone who has had their fair share of chronic pain since childhood, I know how difficult it can be to have a high sex drive (or rather, not a lot of breaks and a whole lot of accelerators, thank you Emily Nagoski) and a body that can’t keep up. Whether your struggling with mental…
I think it’s time to set the record straight on 5 myths you may have heard about sex in pregnancy and postpartum! About a year ago I passed around a survey online about sex in pregnancy and postpartum. I received 42 responses from women and 2 responses from nonbinary folks. The stories were wildly varied…
Continue reading ➞ 5 myths about sex in pregnancy and postpartum [interview with Dr. Emily Queenan]
The below video was created from two live facebook videos for the Postpartum Support Toronto group and Perfectly Imperfect Parenting Tribe. I answered some questions that were sent in by members ahead of time. These questions and answers were centred on partnered people and the research shared is predominantly heterosexual. After watching the videos I…
Continue reading ➞ ask an expert: sex in pregnancy and postpartum
Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…
