define your relationships | define your sex
When we think about having mind-blowing orgasms or opening up our relationships into ethical non-monogamy/polyamory, we don't often think about all the grief we're going to have to move through in order to get there. We often only talk about grief when it comes to the death of a loved one (or a complicated one).…
When I began my journey as a sex therapist I was approaching it like a sex educator. For most of my life, I wanted to be in sex education, but I could never quite find my place in it. I tried working with youth, exploring sexual health through holistic medicines, I even tried filling the…
Typically, I would not subscribe to any magical potion for sex therapy, concrete or abstract, that claims to cure what ails you in sex. BUT, this particular medicine is a doozy! I use it in my sex therapy practice all the time. Are you ready? Here it is...
Every year, I take a break during August from my sex therapy practice to reorient my sex counselling philosophy and skills. Ironically, it is when I am taking a break from sex therapy I find myself hungry for new ideas, resources, and information that might support my sex counselling skills. This past August my holiday…
Each of these tools are techniques and approaches I incorporate into my sex therapy practice. Each have their primary focus, underlying philosophy, and limitations. None of these tools have immediate results or offers "the move" to have amazing sex every time. Rather, they are fundamental sex therapy skills that will support you in having deeply…
Throughout my training to expand my skills in sex counselling, sex therapy, and as a relationship therapist there were courses on all sorts of approaches to psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioural, existential, Gestalt, Rogerian, psychodynamic… it's a lot to keep in mind as a therapist studying the material let alone as someone looking for tools and approaches to…
I work with a lot of folks in polyamorous relationships in my sex therapy practice and in my relationship therapy practice. Before all the on-going communication between partners that is recommended by every polyamory text I have ever read, there is one thing you that doesn't get talked about often enough and that is what…
Continue reading ➞ The first thing you should do before jumping into polyamory
With COVID-19, my sex therapy practice is busy: Sex has undoubtedly taken a hit for most relationships. And if sex was stressful before COVID-19, it likely is only getting more stressful and not less. With the pandemic being more of a long-term problem rather than a short-term crisis, you may be wondering how to get…
One technique I like to use in my sex counselling or in my relationship therapy is scripts. I have everyone collaborate on a script they can turn to when they know they are about to go down a dead-end road.
I have met so many people in my sex counselling practice who feel tentative talking about sex openly and explicitly with their partners. Often times there are fears of being judged, feeling weird about asking for wants and needs, concerns that talking about sex will make partners feel inadequate or "bad at sex." This can…
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