5 ways to get hot when sex is not

As someone who has had their fair share of chronic pain since childhood, I know how difficult it can be to have a high sex drive (or rather, not a lot of breaks and a whole lot of accelerators, thank you Emily Nagoski) and a body that can’t keep up. Whether your struggling with mental…

5 myths about sex in pregnancy and postpartum [interview with Dr. Emily Queenan]

I think it’s time to set the record straight on 5 myths you may have heard about sex in pregnancy and postpartum! About a year ago I passed around a survey online about sex in pregnancy and postpartum. I received 42 responses from women and 2 responses from nonbinary folks. The stories were wildly varied…

ask an expert: sex in pregnancy and postpartum

The below video was created from two live facebook videos for the Postpartum Support Toronto group and Perfectly Imperfect Parenting Tribe. I answered some questions that were sent in by members ahead of time. These questions and answers were centred on partnered people and the research shared is predominantly heterosexual. After watching the videos I…

badass dolls with badass bodies [interview Chason Yeboah]

When I saw these badass dolls at the Toronto Erotic Arts and Craft Fair hosted by Come As You Are, I got tingles all over my body. Chason Yeboah's dolls aren't just beautiful, they're healing and powerful. I wanted to learn more about Chason and how these dolls came to be. What inspired you to…

voices needed: sex in pregnancy and postpartum

In researching resources available to the public about sex in pregnancy and postpartum something became very apparent: these voices are white and heterosexual. Very. Very. white-hetero. My next thought was: how can I expand this conversation? I can’t tell you I have an understanding of sex during pregnancy and postpartum without recognizing the extremely important…

Cliterature: the all too hidden gem

In case it’s not evident from a name like Cliterature, let the record show that this event is a very good time. “Cliterature is a transformational and artful celebration of women’s sexuality through erotic readings, live music, dance and more!” as described by creator, Shelley Secrett of Secrett Events. “And more!” is an understatement. Events…

vulva print making: a love letter to my vulva

My vulva and I go way back. No, further. I can’t remember life without her (I imagine my vulva as a lady, shout out to vulvas of all occupations and titles!) We’ve been best friends before I knew what best friends were. She’s stood by me through sad times, good times, scary times, all the…

sex is more than just sex

Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…