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ND is a cisgender, queer, Indian, Sikh woman from Vancouver, BC. Her family originates from Punjab, North India. ND moved to Toronto from Vancouver to become a midwife and has since started a family with her partner within the context of their open relationship. Her little girl is currently 11 months, full of delicious rolls…
Continue reading ➞ VOICES SERIES: ND’s Sex in Pregnancy and Postpartum Story
I am pleased to announce that this summer I will be heading to Nova Scotia to offer a talk and workshop at Venus Envy the weekend of August 12-13th! If you're a parent or birth worker looking to learn more about sex, intimacy, and relationships during pregnancy and postpartum you can register at Venus Envy…
As someone who has had their fair share of chronic pain since childhood, I know how difficult it can be to have a high sex drive (or rather, not a lot of breaks and a whole lot of accelerators, thank you Emily Nagoski) and a body that can’t keep up. Whether your struggling with mental…
I think it’s time to set the record straight on 5 myths you may have heard about sex in pregnancy and postpartum! About a year ago I passed around a survey online about sex in pregnancy and postpartum. I received 42 responses from women and 2 responses from nonbinary folks. The stories were wildly varied…
Continue reading ➞ 5 myths about sex in pregnancy and postpartum [interview with Dr. Emily Queenan]
The below video was created from two live facebook videos for the Postpartum Support Toronto group and Perfectly Imperfect Parenting Tribe. I answered some questions that were sent in by members ahead of time. These questions and answers were centred on partnered people and the research shared is predominantly heterosexual. After watching the videos I…
Continue reading ➞ ask an expert: sex in pregnancy and postpartum
In researching resources available to the public about sex in pregnancy and postpartum something became very apparent: these voices are white and heterosexual. Very. Very. white-hetero. My next thought was: how can I expand this conversation? I can’t tell you I have an understanding of sex during pregnancy and postpartum without recognizing the extremely important…
Continue reading ➞ voices needed: sex in pregnancy and postpartum
Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…
