5 ways to get hot when sex is not

As someone who has had their fair share of chronic pain since childhood, I know how difficult it can be to have a high sex drive (or rather, not a lot of breaks and a whole lot of accelerators, thank you Emily Nagoski) and a body that can’t keep up. Whether your struggling with mental…

7 complicated feelings I have about aromatherapy

I haven’t written much about my aromatherapy practice, yet friends are constantly asking me which oils to use for sleeping, staying awake, relaxing, morning sickness, calming the mind… "Is peppermint safe during pregnancy?" (answer: not really, no) "Is lavender safe to use with my children in the house?" (answer: yes!) So… why don’t I write…

badass dolls with badass bodies [interview Chason Yeboah]

When I saw these badass dolls at the Toronto Erotic Arts and Craft Fair hosted by Come As You Are, I got tingles all over my body. Chason Yeboah's dolls aren't just beautiful, they're healing and powerful. I wanted to learn more about Chason and how these dolls came to be. What inspired you to…

voices needed: sex in pregnancy and postpartum

In researching resources available to the public about sex in pregnancy and postpartum something became very apparent: these voices are white and heterosexual. Very. Very. white-hetero. My next thought was: how can I expand this conversation? I can’t tell you I have an understanding of sex during pregnancy and postpartum without recognizing the extremely important…

8 gender-neutral birth terms and how to use them

I had the pleasure of auditing the Infant and Pregnancy Loss Doula Certification program offered through the Home Hospice Association for inclusive language, and recently a colleague asked me for some advice on gender-neutral birth terms so I thought… why not make a list? Birth workers and mommy groups are all too often hyper gendered…

sex is more than just sex

Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…