In my sex therapy practice I often wonder when I am specifically working with folks in couples therapy or relationship counselling: what stops folks from experimenting more? Getting sillier? Taking a chance on a weird request? And I started to wonder... Whether or not being cool is ruining your sex life definitely depends on your…
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What is depression?
I have an understanding of depression. As a sex therapist you may be surprised to learn that the topic of depression comes up quite a bit in sex counselling. Struggling with sexual desire, sexual arousal, or connecting with partners can all be made particularly difficult when depression is present. Sexual energy is firey! It's energized!…
Sex Therapy and 5 ways to change your life
Great things can happen in sex therapy! Maybe you’re having trouble maintaining or getting aroused. Maybe you’re exploring a new queer identity or gender identity. One of the most common types of clients I work with is someone who has experienced a sexual trauma, has done a tonne of trauma processing, but never got support…
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What is normal?
A common question that I think all sexual health workers hear at some point is: "am I normal?" I don’t love the word normal because I think for many folks it looks something like this: Normal = common = good/right [and this is problematic for many reasons]. But lots of things are common and not…
VOICES: Maron’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
CS: birth trauma (details), gender identity feels, body image, mental health, sexuality, kink/BDSM, sex work Maron identifies as a white, able-bodied, middle-class, employed, occasionally depressed, parent, poly, queer, genderqueer: agender, they/them pronouns, and is married to a cis-dude in a triad and lives in a poly household. Maron and their husband are the bio-parents of…
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Anarres Needs Your Help!
The following is a message from my mentor and close friend Tracey Tief, owner and operator of Anarres Apothecary and Apprenticeship Program: Thanks to you we had a bustling holiday season! Now, foremost on our minds is our crowdfunding Co Immunity Campaign and I am counting on you to help us make it a success.…
Holiday Book Giveaway! Unscrewed by Jaclyn Friedman
Are you looking for a great book for that special feminist someone this year? I have the book for you– Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All by Jaclyn Friedman. Even better news, TynanRhea.com is hosting a book giveaway for the holidays! Just comment on this blog why…
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I am queer and trans: where can I get a haircut?
CS: queer & LGBTQ+ community talk, talking about ageism, body shame, personal stories of nonbinary gender exploration, stories about discouraging parents, masculine barbershop culture, interview by nonbinary client with a cis-woman barber. I’ve been going to the Crows Nest Barbershop to get my haircut for the last year and a half, but I was really…
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INTERNET GEMS: 4 great sex & birth articles
CS: note that all the below articles refer to cis-women's experiences with birth and pregnancy, and are often discussed from a heteronormative perspective. Aside from all the amazing articles I’ve had the opportunity to take part in (which you can peruse here and the articles I’ve loved writing these are some of the best reads…
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VOICES SERIES: Ayana’s sex in pregnancy and postpartum story
Ayana (not her real name) identifies as a woman, mother, black woman, latina woman, a multicultural woman, and as a Georgia Peach (having been born and raised in Georgia). She identifies as mainly straight but also as bi[sexual]. However, she finds being married to a cishet-man, others perceive her as straight. And last, but not…
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