In researching resources available to the public about sex in pregnancy and postpartum something became very apparent: these voices are white and heterosexual. Very. Very. white-hetero. My next thought was: how can I expand this conversation? I can’t tell you I have an understanding of sex during pregnancy and postpartum without recognizing the extremely important…
Continue reading ➞ voices needed: sex in pregnancy and postpartum
I had the pleasure of auditing the Infant and Pregnancy Loss Doula Certification program offered through the Home Hospice Association for inclusive language, and recently a colleague asked me for some advice on gender-neutral birth terms so I thought… why not make a list? Birth workers and mommy groups are all too often hyper gendered…
Continue reading ➞ 8 gender-neutral birth terms and how to use them
When I was a young wide-eyed University kid, I looked up to Come As You Are as the gold standard for good sex business! CAYA is a business cooperative sex shop located in Toronto. Though they used to have a beautiful, accessible, and colourful store front they now have a beautiful, accessible, colourful online store.…
In case it’s not evident from a name like Cliterature, let the record show that this event is a very good time. “Cliterature is a transformational and artful celebration of women’s sexuality through erotic readings, live music, dance and more!” as described by creator, Shelley Secrett of Secrett Events. “And more!” is an understatement. Events…
My vulva and I go way back. No, further. I can’t remember life without her (I imagine my vulva as a lady, shout out to vulvas of all occupations and titles!) We’ve been best friends before I knew what best friends were. She’s stood by me through sad times, good times, scary times, all the…
Continue reading ➞ vulva print making: a love letter to my vulva
I’ve always felt like I need to be the best at whatever it is I’m doing. Not really good, not an expert, but the very top of the top– number one! Well, I’m not
Don’t panic! There is no need to scramble because these DIY gift ideas will take very little time and cost you under $10, while still looking handsomely charming. Please note: many of these essentials oils are in and around $10 for 10ml, but if you already have the oils it will definitely keep your gift…
Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…
After going to my first birth with my doula-then-midwifery-student-now-friend Kyla, I had a lot of… feelings. Some of them were pleasant, some of them were not so pleasant, but the experience changed my approach to doula work completely. Earlier that day I had been (gently) hit by a car while biking to an appointment. Then…
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