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badass dolls with badass bodies [interview Chason Yeboah]

When I saw these badass dolls at the Toronto Erotic Arts and Craft Fair hosted by Come As You Are, I got tingles all over my body. Chason Yeboah's dolls aren't just beautiful, they're healing and powerful. I wanted to learn more about Chason and how these dolls came to be. What inspired you to…

voices needed: sex in pregnancy and postpartum

In researching resources available to the public about sex in pregnancy and postpartum something became very apparent: these voices are white and heterosexual. Very. Very. white-hetero. My next thought was: how can I expand this conversation? I can’t tell you I have an understanding of sex during pregnancy and postpartum without recognizing the extremely important…

8 gender-neutral birth terms and how to use them

I had the pleasure of auditing the Infant and Pregnancy Loss Doula Certification program offered through the Home Hospice Association for inclusive language, and recently a colleague asked me for some advice on gender-neutral birth terms so I thought… why not make a list? Birth workers and mommy groups are all too often hyper gendered…

Come As You Are, I certainly did!

When I was a young wide-eyed University kid, I looked up to Come As You Are as the gold standard for good sex business! CAYA is a business cooperative sex shop located in Toronto. Though they used to have a beautiful, accessible, and colourful store front they now have a beautiful, accessible, colourful online store.…

Cliterature: the all too hidden gem

In case it’s not evident from a name like Cliterature, let the record show that this event is a very good time. “Cliterature is a transformational and artful celebration of women’s sexuality through erotic readings, live music, dance and more!” as described by creator, Shelley Secrett of Secrett Events. “And more!” is an understatement. Events…

vulva print making: a love letter to my vulva

My vulva and I go way back. No, further. I can’t remember life without her (I imagine my vulva as a lady, shout out to vulvas of all occupations and titles!) We’ve been best friends before I knew what best friends were. She’s stood by me through sad times, good times, scary times, all the…

sex is more than just sex

Remember when a blowjob wasn’t sex? I do. I’ll never forget when my Gr. 10 science teacher asked us, “you guys know that oral sex is sex, right?” I was mortified. I hadn’t considered myself a sexually active person, yet. We don’t learn that there are different kinds of sex: oral, digital (hands and fingers),…